Mom claims her middle child being born on the same day as an anticipated book release ruined their relationship: 'I had to come on the one day she had other plans'

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    AITA for exposing my mom's lifelong grudge against me because I was born on the wrong day?
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    I'm (21m) the middle child of five siblings. And I always knew my mom treated me very differently from the rest of my siblings. It caused my parents marriage to end because my dad made it very clear he wouldn't tolerate her being so different with me. This was after he tried to figure out why she was so different with me. A
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    few close family knew and said it was PPD from when she had me, that apparently only affected her ability to bond with me and not any of my four siblings, just me, the middle kid. I have a sibling one year younger than me and she bonded with her just fine.
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    I was a teenager when I got into a fight with mom one day and she accused me of always hating her and never wanting her to be happy. I asked what the she meant by that and she told me that I had to come on the one day she had other plans, that it was bad enough I was overdue when I was born, but I prevented her from reading a book that released that day that she'd made plans to read months in advance.
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    She told me I just had to be born that day so she was too tired to read it on the release day and she was weeks behind. She said I couldn't even be born normally like my siblings and I was a c- section baby. She told me it her plans so bad and I never seemed to care. Then she mentioned how much I cried when she was
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    around and how good I did with dad. She said I made her seem like such a monster and none of my siblings were like that. She told me I clearly always wanted to come between her and dad. She was pretty serious about it too. She said I started her over the day I was born.
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    It really shocked me when she told me all this. At first I didn't/didn't want to believe it. Dad and I even did a DNA test around that time because we were like, maybe she's making up a dumb reason so we won't know she cheated, but I'm definitely dad's kid. DNA confirmed it.
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    My relationship with mom is as bad as the day I was born apparently and I get a hard time from some family friends and extended family members who see me not being close with my mom as me being to her for no reason. They put the bad relationship on me and at my grandparents house on Saturday I got so tired of the comments and mom sneering at me the
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    whole time, they I exposed what she said to me when I was a teenager and the blame she put on me being born the wrong day for our bad relationship. Mom half admitted it because she got so angry she verbally lashed out at me. It created a shitshow and some family members think I made a big deal out of nothing but others were disgusted with mom.
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    I was told I was wrong to expose her like that. Mom told me I had no business doing that. So I ask. AITA?
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    Trevena_Ice . 4 hr. ago NTA. She hated you, her own child for something you couldn't control. That is bizzar and absolutly wrong from her. I'm sorry, that you have someone like that as a mother and I hope you have at least a parent figure in your dad. Do not give 5 cents about anything your mother says anymore. She doesn't deserve that you care about her.
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    Soggy-Hunt3889 OP. 4 hr. ago My dad is great. He did his best to make sure I didn't suffer as much from mom's attitude toward her. His only regret is he couldn't keep me from her entirely but that was never going to happen and I know that.
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    HotHuckleberryPie · 2 hr. ago This reminds me of the book Little Fires Everywhere. One of the kids in the family was always targeted by the mother-- turns out it was the circumstances of her birth. It's also a miniseries if books aren't your thing. I'm so sorry for your treatment.
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    Any_Instance3697. 4 hr. ago NTA-Born on the wrong day? That's a new level of ridiculousness. You did the right thing exposing her
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    Soggy-Hunt3889 OP. 4 hr. ago Yep and all because of a book too which only adds to the insanity of this.
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    Mitigated__disaster · 3 hr. ago This totally reads as though it's a Harry Potter book. I'm really sorry that she hated you for being born on the "wrong" day. You are in no way shape or form in the wrong. I'm sorry she has mistreated you like this for decades for not being able to read a book on its release date. You deserved better.
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    feelinfatandsassy · 1 hr. ago Order of the Phoenix came out in 2003. OP is 21. The math checks out
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    RoughCow854. 2 hr. ago NTA - but she's using that born on the wrong day as an excuse. What really I her off (reading between the lines) is that you had a better bonding experience with your father. She saw that as a slight to her. What a narcissist.

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